qsa workshop #2: queer & family
designed by talia young, email@example.com, fall 2000
- to make people think about how queerness relates to other "unconventional" family structures
- to make people think about how queerness can thus help redefine "family"
- to give people tools in helping them to deal with queerness and their families
- beach or rubber ball for icebreaker
- make copies of the handouts
- make room for a circle
- keep the ball up in the air?
- we're going to go around and each talk briefly about where our names come from. i'll start.
- confidentiality: not that you can't talk about what goes on here (on the contrary, please do continue discussions outside of the workshop) but don't go around saying "so-and-so was at the workshop and said such-and-such"
- respect: there are probably a lot of us coming from different places; please respect each other. feel free to disagree with each other but please use "i" statements
- no stupid questions: on a similar note, there are no stupid questions here; you should feel free to ask everything. i realize this can sometimes be a risky position to take, but i think it's important. if you think a question is offensive, you should say so, but that doesn't mean that it was stupid. anyway, we'll see how this one works.
- any others?
- fill in part one of the chart:
- who makes up your family now?
- who do you anticipate will make up your family in the future?
- are they different? how is each family "unconventional"?
- break into groups of three (by alphabet?) to share your charts
- come back to the big group to report
- fill in part two of the chart, answering each question twice, once for you and once for your family:
- what languages do you speak?
- where were you born?
- where do you live or where do you expect to live in the future?
- what jobs do you have now or do you expect to have in the future?
- how much money do you make or do you expect to make in the future?
- do you classify yourself by race? if so, how? ("i don't know" is an acceptable answer.)
- do you classify yourself by sexual orientation/gender? if so, how? ("i don't know" is an acceptable answer.)
- what kind of friends and friendships do you have? (also: what race and class and sexual/gender orientation are your friends?)
- do you talk about g/l/b/t/q issues in the way we're doing in this workshop?
- do you talk about g/l/b/t/q issues in different ways than we're doing in this workshop? how?
break up into different groups (by birthday?) to share
come back to report
- what entries here are the same for you and your family? what entries are different?
- do the similarities and differences bother you? if so, what and how?
- what in this chart do you like?
- what in this chart do you wish that you could change?
follow up/wrap up/conclusion:
- go around and share a closing thought.
1: what is queer? |
2: queer & family |
3: (trans)gender |
4: queer sex |
5: gay marriage |
6: queer athletics
7: queer literature |
8: erotica, smut & pornography |
9: queer religion |
10: culturally mediated (a)sexuality?
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last updated 5 january 2001.