Asked by the WOMEN...

• How do you "do" vaginal fisting?
• What do you know about female ejaculation?
• Is fingering considered sex?
• How do you think someone can tell when they are ready to have sex?
• Do you ever get tired of sex? (Have too much? Or does it get better?)
• What are the STD risks associated with oral sex?
• I don't enjoy people going down on me, and I don't know what to ask for -- any advice?
• Have you found that men or women give better oral sex?
• "rimming"?
• Are men attracted to women who have flat chests?
• Is it true that women reach a "sexual peak" at around 30 years old? Did you find this to be true in your experience?
• Do you use sex toys? If yes, at what point in your life did you feel comfortable with the issue (talking about it with a partner, etc.)?
• In your experience, what's the best way to slow down an orgasm -- to have the arousal last longer before the orgasm?
• After years of being with lesbians, I am finding that men really like lots of sex talk. This is difficult for me, since I'm so inexperienced at talking dirty, and lesbians are usually having sex that makes it tough to talk at the same time (oral sex). So how can I make this transition? Any advice on talking dirty to your partner?
• Is there any way to have safe oral sex with a woman without suffocating or choking on plastic?
• How would you go about telling your partner what you want sexually? I always seem to get nervous (although I shouldn't) when I talk to my past partner about this.
• Do you think many people realize that women can ejaculate? Is this intimidating to men?
• Do you feel vulnerable during oral sex?
• What is your favorite sex toy?
• What is rimming like?
• What do you think is the best age or the best way to talk to kids about sex and sexuality?
• How much control do you have with your vaginal muscles? Does it make a difference in your level of pleasure?
• How does one woman properly finger another?
• What's oral sex like? And what are the ways to do it?
• Can you explain a good technique for giving oral sex to a guy?
• What are some strategies/techniques that you have found enjoyable during oral sex with a woman?
• If you use a vibrator, will that raise your stimulation threshold?
• Tell us how a woman can receive a G-spot orgasm. Please!
• How common is it for a woman's toes to splay during orgasm?
• Orgasms seem to only occur when I'm emotionally involved with a person. How come I can't come if my feelings change?
• Talk more about masturbation. Or how a shy girl can meet a fabulous babe. Why shouldn't shy people have lots of sex?
• What's the deal with multiple orgasms?
• What can you do with a hand and a penis if you lack lotion?
• Why can't I come?
• Do you believe in the G-spot?
• From your experience, do you think it's possible for a person to reach orgasm without touching themselves (i.e. from movies, books, or fantasies)?
• Suggestions for reaching orgasm?
• How do you achieve orgasm?
• What are the various ways to reach orgasm?
• How do you masturbate?
• Can you learn to have vaginal orgasms by doing kegal exercises or "teach yourself" to have vaginal orgasms some other way that doesn't involve stimulating the clitoris (even though that's wonderful too)?
• Do you find that more women or men masturbate? Is that related in any way to the sexual satisfaction question?
• How do most women masturbate? Is there a standard way? I feel like the way I do it is not what other girls do.
• Why is control such an issue in sex?
• How can I tell if someone is attracted to me?
• How do I "get some" on this campus without getting drunk and losing myself?
• Let's say you want to have phone sex because your lover is in another state -- how might one initiate it? Should you just start talking, or talk about doing it first, or what? I really wanna do it.
• My ex-boyfriend of one year had no interest/desire in me at all sexually. How would you recommend I safely try to regain confidence in my sexuality?
• I'm a virgin. My partner (male) and I have tried having sex at least five times, but it really, really hurts me. I really want to be able to have sex; is there anything I can do?
• How do you go about tracking down pornography/erotica that's not yucky and filled with people with implants?
• I am curious about people having sex changes and still finding themselves attracted to the same sex.
• I don't find it pleasurable to be penetrated (with anything), but maybe that's just because I haven't had male-female sex. Do some women enjoy it?
• Why can't people just kiss a lot more?
• How do I help someone feel comfortable with their own sexual self when I want to have sex with her without coming off as a sex-crazed pervert?
• My boyfriend (who is bisexual) has had more homosexual experiences than he told me about. Of course I'm upset, but should I feel guilty about being upset over the sex with men?
• Why does my period turn my boyfriend off so much?
• Why do you think women feel guilty after being raped?
• What do you do if you know you are inhibited and have stupid Protestant crap about sex in your head and want to be free but can't?
• What do you do if you enjoy sex -- love sex -- but then get confused about the resulting relationships/intimacy? Do you just refrain from emotional intimacy? Or sex?
• How do you make sure to pay sufficient attention to all partners in a threesome/group sex?
• My boyfriend used to love me giving him oral sex, but lately it seems like he's gotten bored and doesn't want it anymore. Can you give me tips on how to do it?
• What do you think of M/F daddy/little girl relationships that involve pretending to be under-age and the man being the pedophile?
• What's up with the G-spot? I swear I don't have one.
• How does a "good girl" like me ever get over the guilt over sex and learn to be proud of being the bad girl I am? How do I get over the shame about my slut behavior?
• Do you think you can learn to be attracted to someone? I mean, can you be put with the person, told you should have sex, then learn?
• I normally have a great sex drive, but for the last month or two, it's been horrible; what's up?
• I feel fairly comfortable with myself sexually, but I do worry about STDs, and so I find myself to be not as sexually free as I might otherwise be. Thoughts?
• Could you talk about fisting?
• Why is there such embarrassment about liking pornography?
• How do you think we as a country can get over the slut/stud mentality?
• Do you think there is any way to rectify the apparently complete disjunctions between sexual happiness (or activity at all) and most religions?
• How do you see sex as a part of the road to spirituality? How are sexual experiences a way to find that part of yourself (spirit self)?
• What do you think of the Kama Sutra?
• How do you feel about pornography? Do you consider some porn beneficial and some porn not beneficial to women's progress? What do you consider good porn and what bad porn? What are the defining characteristics of good porn?
• What do you think about sexual harassment?
• When is sex, especially heterosex, exploitive to women in your opinion? Ice pornography? Large age differences? Role playing? S/M?
• Do you feel there is an age (nothing exact) necessary when people are not mature enough to be having sex with another person?
• I saw an ad in Curve for the new On Our Backs. How does it differ from the original?
• My boyfriend and I have been talking about making home movies. When you break up, what happens to the movies? Do we have a chance of marketing it? We are both attractive and liberated, if you catch my drift.
• How can I get a job at Good Vibrations?
• Do you enjoy sex with men or women better?
• Are you addicted to sex?
• What's your view on BDSM issues?
• Do you think that there is anything that is inherently deviant or wrong?
• Why did you choose to become a Sexpert?
• How old were you when you first had sex?
• How often do you have sex?
• What's your biggest fantasy?
• From the excerpts I've read of your work, it sounds like you don't generally have monogamous relationships. How do you work that out so that people don't feel jealous or hurt?
• What has been your best sexual experience?
• Do you think your candor with sex is a reaction to your Catholic upbringing? Or is it just an index to your personality?
• What's the "weirdest" thing you've ever done? Sexual or otherwise, "weird" as being something that general society would deem weird.
• Does the size of a penis matter to you?
• Where's the strangest and most interesting place you've ever had sex?
• When did you first become aware that you were a dyke, attracted to women?
• Do you believe in "lesbian death bed"?
• What do you think about incest?
• What is one of your wildest fantasies?
• Are you bisexual even though you have a daughter?

Asked by the MEN...

• How can I help my roommate's shame of having a small penis?
• How do we open America's eyes and hearts to being more honest? Do we force awareness on people?
• The first time my partner and I tried a threesome, we were surprised to feel emotionally down and lonely afterwards. It was with a close friend. Have you heard that feeling before?
• How do I keep my penis from getting in the way of having sex?
• Why are guys so reluctant to talk about sex with other guys?
• Do you have suggestions for how to mediate between the physical and emotional aspects of sexuality?
• Do you think you can be both spiritual and still openly sexual and sensual?
• Do you think it is possible to maintain an intense, loving relationship with one person but still have multiple partners?
• How do I seduce other men? In other words, how do I get a date?
• If you are in a relationship, how deplorable is it to have sex with another person? (Is it?)
• Where does sexual desire come from?
• What are some easy suggestions to spice up your sex life?
• How can I make my erection last longer, even after I come?
• Is it weird to not be turned on by someone who might be attractive but you don't care about?
• Do you think homosexuality is genetic?
• What's the best way to orally stimulate a woman?
• What do you feel like is the most awkward thing a male could do during sex? And how big of a deal would it really be?
• What's your favorite technique for eating pussy?
• Could you suggest positions for penis-vagina intercourse that better stimulate the clit?
• How might you go about initiating a somewhat anonymous sexual encounter?
• How do you know if you think about sex too much?
• Is it normal if my ejaculate isn't smooth? It's often sort of clumpy. Also: female ejaculation -- how?
• I don't know how to let myself enjoy anal sex. I'm not sure if it's physical or psychological reasons. Any advice?
• I want a sure-fire way to control when I come. How?
• How common is oral sex?
• What can a man do during vaginal intercourse to help the woman to orgasm?
• Are you satisfied with your sex life?
• What do you enjoy least about even the most pleasurable sexual experiences?
• What's your favorite thing to do or receive in bed?
• What is your favorite position?
• What are your thoughts on bestiality?
• How do you feel about men looking at pornography?
• When did you first feel sexually liberated?
• When in your life did you decide to have sex with a woman?
• Are you happy with your sex life?