qsa workshop #4: queer sex
designed by talia young, talia@sccs.swarthmore.edu, fall 2000

objectives:

• to talk about sex!
• to handle sex manipulatives
• to talk about what "sex" means
• to familiarize people with slang sexual terms
• to talk about how queer people have sex
• to talk about how queer people have safer sex
• to talk about how does queer sex change how we think about sex

materials needed:

• manipulatives, such as but not limited to:
• vibrators
• butt plugs
• latex condoms
• ribbed latex condoms
• "female" polyurethane condoms
• banana
• dental dams
• saran wrap (non-microwaveable)
• finger cots
• gloves
• lube
• several sexperts
• S&M expert
• S&M expert

preparation:

• lay the manipulatives out on the table
• clear space in the room for two lines of people to stand

icebreaker:

• orange kiss: divide into two or more teams by you like macs or pcs better

name game:

• go around, do names and say your favorite scene from a movie, a sex scene or not.

ground rules:

• confidentiality: not that you can't talk about what goes on here (on the contrary, please do continue discussions outside of the workshop) but don't go around saying "so-and-so was at the workshop and said such-and-such"
• respect: there are probably a lot of us coming from different places; please respect each other. feel free to disagree with each other but please use "i" statements
• no stupid questions: on a similar note, there are no stupid questions here; you should feel free to ask everything. i realize this can sometimes be a risky position to take, but i think it's important. if you think a question is offensive, you should say so, but that doesn't mean that it was stupid. anyway, we'll see how this one works.
• any others?

activity:

• talk about sex: "what does sex mean?"
• list different ways of having sex:
• intercourse: penile-vaginal, dildo, anal
• oral sex: blow jobs, rimming
• finger sex
• fisting
• S&M
• then, show/tell/ask

follow up/wrap up/conclusion:

• somethiing new that you learned

1: what is queer? | 2: queer & family | 3: (trans)gender | 4: queer sex | 5: gay marriage | 6: queer athletics
7: queer literature | 8: erotica, smut & pornography | 9: queer religion | 10: culturally mediated (a)sexuality?
icebreakers | name games

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